There is some crass language in this article, Feminist Self-Annihilation, but please read it. The author explains how the call for "liberation" has begun to require girls to deny basic human instincts--including the desire to LOVE and be loved. More and more women associate romance with weakness. Relationships are considered anti-feminist.
The author then quotes the reactions of several women to this news; their comments are tragic.
For example, when one woman learned that her younger "sisters" were suppressing their desires for families, she cheered them on.
"I don’t mean to be unsympathetic, but I am kind of thrilled that [wanting love] is considered embarrassing among smart, young women. Having a boyfriend and/or being well on the way to marriage used to be the default for twenty-somethings..."
Another woman writes:
"On the other side of this, I feel a lot of guilt for having a wonderful, stable relationship with my boyfriend of two-plus years. I’m anxious about missing out on what the zeitgeist says the 20s lifestyle 'should' be (playing the field, etc.)..."
So, this smart, free-thinking woman has opted to go ahead with the relationship path she wants. But she still feels guilty. And she wonders, "Would one-night stands be better?! More empowering?"
Even the girl who says relationships may be beneficial for feminists still offers repulsively self-serving reasons for this conclusion.
"What strikes me as weird about this conversation, and why this shift in priorities doesn’t seem like a complete feminist victory, is that it discounts the idea that a relationship can be an incredible source of support for career and life goals. Having someone who, say, helps with chores to give you more time to study or work, or who encourages you when you’re discouraged, or works in a similar field and helps you with ideas, who backs you publicly, etc?"
So, you see, feminists? You shouldn't be embarrassed that you want a boyfriend. He can wash your dishes and rub your feet. Overall, men are great ways to reach your more-important career goals. And they're warmer than robots!
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By the end of the article, I agreed with the author that this doesn't make me angry as much as sad. These women don't seem aware they are starving their own souls--and they're being spurred on by well-intentioned (but equally misguided and broken) females.
Yet, when I read the comments, I can't help but think men are better off without entering relationships with self-gratifying females like these. Perhaps modern girls aren't ready for Real Love, anyway...since they believe wholeheartedly, "My 'freedom' is more important than anything else--including you."
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